For with great wisdom comes great frustration;
whoever increases his knowledge merely increases his heartache.
Learn from the experience
There are times that we do not want to experience heartache, but we do. We question, why did this happen? Even though, we do not understand the reason, we do understand that there must have been one. As time passes by, we see that had it happened the way we wanted it and had we not suffered a heartache, it could have had negative and complicated consequences that were not comprehensible at the time. We take the experience we place it somewhere in our subconscious, and if faced with it again, we know what needs to be done. Although, at the time, we suffered, we learned from the experience.
Grow as individuals
Hard knocks, or life experiences, once we have learned from them, help us grow as individuals. As we go through life, we gain insight, knowledge, and wisdom. All three are good for personal growth. Insight gives us a better look at situations, knowledge gives us a better understanding of things that happen, and wisdom gives us prudence when faced with different situations.
More faith in God
We face an infinite number of situations in life, for which we are not prepared. Life does not have a How-To book that we can open up and follow each time we need guidance. However, our knowledge of faith helps us make the best decisions when God is consulted. Does that make it easier? Does it make it harder? Does it have any impact at all? The answer is within us. Do you believe in God? Do you not believe in God? Do you rather not even think in those terms? Then the answer will be dependent on you, your faith, and your belief. Faith in God, like anything else, is a personal choice. I choose to believe God exists, and I choose to believe that having faith in him, allowing him to guide my life, and giving him control of my worries and problems, provide the best way to understand the reason why things happen.
When I am faced with a heartache, I reason that there must be a lesson to be learned. I look for the lesson and I apply it to my life so that I can grow in insight, knowledge, and wisdom. I put my faith in God, I allow him to guide me, and in the end, he provides the reason or reasons why I had to go through the experience. It does not make it any easier. I still hurt, cry, and question, but I remember that with faith, I can overcome and arise to be a better person, a better individual, and a better witness for him.